Do I have a spending or shopping addiction?
We are convinced that spenders and shoppers of our type are in the grip of a progressive illness. An addiction
We have made countless vain attempts to prove that we could spend or shop like others.
The idea that somehow someday we will control our spending is the great obsession of every compulsive spender.
The persistence of this illusion is astonishing
Twelve Characteristics of a Spending Addict
1 We find that our spending is no longer a matter of choice, that we are powerless over our spending addiction.
Once we begin shopping or spending, we often cannot reliably stop or control the amount, even when we intend to.
2 We are preoccupied with money, shopping, or the idea of purchasing.
Thoughts of buying, browsing, or planning purchases occupy our minds and distract us from our responsibilities and relationships.
3 We spend to change how we feel.
We use spending to soothe anxiety, relieve boredom, escape discomfort, or create excitement when life feels dull or painful.
4 We chase the emotional “high” of spending.
Anticipation, purchasing, or receiving items gives us a temporary sense of relief, power, or aliveness that quickly fades.
5 We act impul sively and against our better judgment.
We buy things we do not need, cannot afford, or will not use, often feeling compelled in the moment despite prior resolutions.
6 We experience guilt, shame, or remorse after spending.
After the excitement wears off, we feel disappointment in ourselves and often vow to do better—only to repeat the behavior.
7 We rationalize, justify, or minimize our spending.
We tell ourselves stories such as “I deserve this,” “I’ll return it,” or “This is the last time,” even when evidence suggests otherwise.
8 Our spending escalates over time.
What once satisfied us no longer does; we spend more often, more impulsively, or with greater emotional intensity to get the same effect.
9 We use spending to avoid reality.
Rather than face feelings, problems, or limitations, we retreat into fantasy—imagining a better life, self, or future through purchases.
10 Our spending interferes with our relationships and responsibilities.
We may hide purchases, lie about spending, argue with loved ones, or withdraw emotionally as our behavior creates tension or mistrust.
11 We sacrifice important parts of our lives to support our spending.
Time, peace of mind, self-respect, creativity, and genuine connection are gradually abandoned as shopping becomes a primary focus.
12 Despite negative consequences, we continue to spend.
Even when spending causes emotional, relational, or financial harm, we find ourselves unable to stop on our own.